Is there a way to avoid the sinking, let down feeling when there is no activity? The only way I can think of? Not date.
Even when single, dating has patches of no activity. It's not exclusive to poly dating. It's part of dating risk. You hang a shingle out and nobody answers. Or people answer and you feel meh about it.
Rather than try to avoid the feeling of disappointed it is not more fun, how about learning to process it? Let it come as it comes?
And / or change your dating options from "seeking a triad member" to "we are open to..."
"we are open to a "V" thing" with one or the other or both as a hinge
"we are open to a triad"
"we are open to just friendship."
Not have a profile page like a couple, but each have your own? Could that serve you better?
Last edited by GalaGirl; 03-13-2013 at 12:21 AM.