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Old 03-12-2013, 12:45 AM
JaneQSmythe JaneQSmythe is offline
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Originally Posted by ThatGirlInGray View Post
Okay, this is fair. I will take back any accusation of lying if the person says, "I'm sorry that I didn't think this through more, but I was mistaken/wrong earlier when I said "x". I really think/want "y"."
Actually, thank you very much for acknowledging this! I think that you have to realize that people are human, we make mistakes, and acknowledging those mistakes takes courage. At the same time, this is NOT an excuse for avoiding future self-reflection - if someone repeatedly takes this tactic then then I would worry about your next point:

Originally Posted by ThatGirlInGray View Post
However, if someone is deliberately avoiding some self-examination of what they really want/think because they don't want to put out the effort, are scared of the answers, or whatever, then I go back to thinking poorly of them for not facing up to/ignoring what some niggling feeling told them they should do.
Then, at the very least, they are lying to themselves (I know, I've done it) - I know, I've done it. And, people should be called on it asap.

JaneQ(Me): poly bi female, in an "open-but-not-looking" V-plus with -
MrS: hetero polyflexible male, live-in husband (25+ yrs)
Dude: hetero poly male, live-in boyfriend (7+ yrs) and MrS's BFF
SLeW: platonic hetero girlfriend and BFF
MrClean: hetero mono male, almost lover-friend to me, ex-FWBs to SLeW, friends with MrS
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