Oh, and we also talked a little about her dependency on me for all her needs. She still doesn't want to date other people, but she's agreed that she needs to be more respectful of my relationship with Fly, and my life choices.
Part of it is that she expresses romance through over-the-top statements and words. However, the typical rom-com/mono love story effusions make poly me itchy and uncomfortable. She's going to think about ways she can verbalize her feelings without putting so much pressure on me. She says she didn't really think about how saying the things she does would bother me, or make me feel like she's disrespecting Fly.
We're still not sure how we're going to navigate this aspect of our relationship, but we've both committed to working on it together, and to be patient with each other.
- Moonlight, single, leans monogamous, girlfriend since 6/2012
- Punk, married guy, poly, FWB since 9/2011 with an emphasis on the "F"
- No longer lives with ex-boyfriend Fly (1/2006 - 12/2013, my introduction to nonmonogamy), and his 9-year-old son Kiddo