Originally Posted by JessieNY
I would be allowed yes to see other women. Ultimately he would like just one woman that we can both agree on and love together and act as unit. Though, it sounds selfish...I don't want to be ther 3rd wheel or vice versa.
There's really nothing selfish about not wanting anyone to feel left out...including yourself.
There's a good thread on definitions
some of which will touch on some of the feelings you may be experiencing. Particularly the 4th post contains a link that addresses specifically the person you're looking for...it's a toungue in cheek expression of how the scenario could play out...and is meant for levity...not a prediction. At the same time it illustrates many of the challenges that frequently occur in such a search.