We're doing better. I'm dealing with low self esteem issues that make accepting her new interest a difficult thing. She realizes that and is progressing really slowly for my benefit, a display of love that I understand and value. The more I think about this the less inclined I am to believe we are all "wired" one way or another. This is about choice. She has met someone, and connected with them. She wants to make the deliberate choice to see where it goes. I'm going to make the deliberate choice to support her. It isn't the easiest path, but it's the right one.
Wish me luck.