Something I've noticed on OKC; you can very easily pick out the non-readers.
If their favorite book list is essentially a high school English class reading list, good chance they're not "book people." I almost never hear anyone speak well of The Great Gatsby or Catcher in the Rye but man, fire up a dating site and suddenly EVERYONE turns into an English Lit major.
I am as direct as a T-Rex with 'roid rage and about as subtle. It isn't intended to cause upset, I just prefer to talk plain. There are plenty of other people here who do the nice, polite thing much better than I can. I'm what you'd call a "problem dinner guest."