Originally Posted by hyperskeptic
This is a sign-on-the-dotted line kind of contractual obligation. It's an academic program that ends on date certain, and I have active responsibilities up through the day before I leave.
I suppose, if there were a crisis, I could break the obligation. But what, in all honesty, could I tell the program director about this situation?
"I need to go home early so my wife can go travelling with her boyfriend in Germany . . ."
I'm sure that would go over well.
I understand what you are saying-very well.
But-honestly, I would say,
"I have to leave early because my wife has abandoned my two children alone in the US."
Interestingly I was talking to my husband about this thread today-and he asked what someone else had, "how old are they" and pointed out that he didn't think it was too big of a deal if we left our kids with someone we trusted while we were in Washington (we live in Alaska).
I then pointed out to him-yes but even that is only a 3 hour plane trip away.
This is another country and frankly-no way. I wouldn't do it.
Now I've read the ages, and I still wouldn't do it.
I would be highly ticked off with my spouse for putting me in that position-and I can't say it wouldn't result in some serious consequences to our relationship.
But-at the bottom line-I would go home to my kids.