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Old 03-09-2013, 08:35 PM
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Originally Posted by franchescasc View Post
She also felt very slighted that I had kept this a secret from her for so long.

But when it comes down to it, she tells me she doesn't want to talk about MD. At all.
"I don't want you to talk about it, but I'm upset that you didn't talk about it sooner."

Yeah. That makes sense.

Sorry, I'm just being bitter on your behalf.

So there it is. I've talked to her a few times on the phone about other things, although she ocassionally brings up a "poly-horror-story" that she's heard. I just put up with listening and hope she'll come out of it soon.
Sometimes the best way to make something normal is to treat it as normal. Letting it stay taboo, this "big bad thing" that you do, only reinforces her belief that it's a big bad thing.

She doesn't want to hear about MD? Too bad. She's your friend, MD is your girlfriend, and sharing the joys of romance is a normal thing that people do with their friends. What good is a BFF if you can't call her up and tell her how awesome your date was? How would she feel if you asked her to stop talking about her husband?
As I am sure any cat owner will be able to tell you,
someone else putting you in a box is entirely different
from getting into a box yourself.
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