Well! Whatever happened, it seems to be wrapped up in Matt's failed attempt to be a lover to Si.
I went and found the thread where FoL was totally freaked out at the idea of Matt and Si possibly getting pregnant.
Now Matt's the one freaking out.
When my ex would finally blow, having bottled up feelings for too long, it would get ugly. And here we are in the ugly stage. Obviously this is a hierarchical (and somewhat "religious" Christian) V and Si has suddenly become a pariah, the Other Woman.
I don't think any reasoning or begging for compassion or asking what makes Si such a big ogre all of a sudden is going to do any good right now. White hot anger seems to be the order of the day and words of some strangers on the internet won't do a damn bit of good.
Love withers under constraint; its very essence is liberty. It is compatible neither with envy, jealousy or fear. It is there most pure, perfect and unlimited when its votaries live in confidence, equality and unreserve. -- Shelley
me: Mags, 59, living with:
miss pixi, 37