Originally Posted by FullofLove1052
There's no mistaking that or no amount of counseling that can even begin to fix that. Add that to two people who aren't even willing to seek counseling together, a girlfriend who isn't allowed in your home, years worth of history, a dead friendship, strained relationships, two perceptions of what family is, and it's easy to see how I'm close to blowing a fuse.
Don't push the counceling between the 3 of you right now, it's too soon. However, FOL and Matt should continue to go and often. There is years worth of hurt going on right now. I know what it feels like to be tuned out and ignored for years, it takes time to be able to trust that your partner isn't continuing to tune you out. Then again I've also been on the other side of a crap load of passive aggressive bullshit, so these communication issues seem ever so familiar to me and I sympathize with the both of you.