So I call bullshit on pointing the finger at Matt. It frustrates me to no end when people's judgements end up silencing a member on this forum; you want to preach about respect and good communication? Then please be sure that you're giving the people that you're telling that to the same respect and communication skills you're talking about.
I call bullshit on you calling bullshit.
Would you feel better (be less frustrated) if instead of "blaming people for their feelings" we said "holding people accountable for their actions" (or "communicating the opposite of what they're feeling") instead? Because that is essentially what is going on here.