Thanks for the advise, I'm at the point of trying to figure if these are things I can deal with any more. When the relationship first started I could understand but after 3 years I thought it would get better but it is only getting worse in alot of areas so I guess I have to figure out if I leave or not.
I just needed to know what other people thought and if this was normal. and if it is then I am done.
thanks again for letting me know this is not going to change because I've had this talk with Bob repeatedly and he keeps promising that things will change but they haven't.
At some point a girl has to put herself and her needs first !