Blending two families into one household?
My two children and I moved into Darling's house with his wife and child. We are having adjustment issues. Darling would like us to all live together as a blended family. Even though his wife and I get along very well, it's like we aren't sure what our roles are now. It's one thing when your husband has a girlfriend, it's another when she moves in with her two lively teens. Darling wants me to be his "wife". Defined as the person who he shares his domestic life with. I don't know that his legal wife is quiet ready for this change. She lives quite a separate life from us but she still is part of our family. I pick up on a discomfort when she sees that I am now doing his laundry or cooking for him. Darling says that they are basically roommates and claims he doesn't see any issues. I just don't think he is picking up on them. I know it is going to take time for all of us to work out the living situation.
My kids are adjusting okay. His Daughter, not so much. She stays in her room all the time and won't come out. Her parents have to coax her to spend anytime with all of us. She definitely is not fond of me. My daughter is her age and would really like to be friends but she is actively ignoring her. It must be very stressful to have a new family brought into her house.
Any suggestions for living as a poly family?