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Old 03-07-2013, 08:35 PM
ManofDiscovery ManofDiscovery is offline
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Originally Posted by learninginTN View Post
I hope I can take it to the next level soon. What do you think? Should I invite her out for another dinner, or some other activity, or drinks, or what exactly?
Well done...a bit of courage goes a long way.

You don't need to plan some amazing super date...dinner and/or drinks is fine, preferably with some location you can take her back to afterwards (like your place, or hers).

Go for some drinks, then invite her back to yours to see your fishtank/trainset/stamp collection/parrokeet/collection of classic 70s porn/whatever.

Then when you're there, let nature take its course.

It doesn't have to be any more difficult than that. I like to roughly plan the logistics in advance (where will we meet, where will we go to next, where will we end up, and how we will get there), then lead all the way, so that all she has to do is follow along, and she ends up back at your place.

Of course, if she's not comfortable at any point, she can easily say no - but the key is that she doesn't have to take the lead and force the issue at any point. This is often what happens when girls say things like 'he just swept me off my feet' and 'I don't normally do that sort of thing, but it felt so natural with him'.

You don't have to rigidly stick to your plan. Be flexible enough to adapt should the circumstances warrant it...but it's good to have a default idea of how things are going to go down, then plan your date around it.
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