Originally Posted by ferenc
Is it ego, insecurity, cultural conditioning? What is going on here?
Could be all three, really. Many people get past this through a lot of time, research, and communication with all the parties involved. Some people never do.
I encourage you to be very open and honest with your wife about your feelings. Don't be afraid to voice them, and try to create an atmosphere where she feels comfortable voicing hers to you as well.
Work together to establish your comfort limits. I wish you guys the best.