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Old 03-06-2013, 11:43 PM
acb2012 acb2012 is offline
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Default Help with phrasing a request...

Need a little help. My lover is having a very difficult time on a lot of levels, physically, emotionally, mentally. And I love him and want to support him. And I am pretty new to this relationship (about 8 months), and honestly, pretty new to the concept of polyamory. (Long post... never knew about polyamory as a label, one mono relationship, always having to explain myself constantly so I am just going to drop this.)

Anyway... OK. Lately he has been leaning on me pretty hard for a lot of support in all facets. The part I am having a hard time with is being his cheerleader when he goes on dates. From start to finish. How to approach asking them out. Pre-game cheerleading. Post game wrap up.

I am happy he is dating. I WANT him to be happy and feel great about himself. But this is making me a little uncomfortable. I want him to know that I am really supportive, but his firsts dates, I kind of want them to be his thing.

Like I said, I am new to this. I've never (aside from once) been monogamous, but I've never been poly either. just been doing my own thing and it worked. And quite honestly this is not even a poly/mono question. It's a human question. How do you love and support someone while a the same time, not being more involved in the play by play than you need to be?
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