Originally Posted by GalaGirl
If you do not want to risk her staying? Do not invite. Simple.
Or if you know she stays each time she is asked, ask less often.
Could be more assertive in your communication.
I do. I do not offer unless I am prepared for the other person to take me up on the offer. Otherwise I put myself in a position of having to go "well... I offered but did not mean it really."
Just a whole lot easier to say something else.
"Thanks for the visit! We'll see you again next time!" is much clearer and still polite.
Right, right. I take the blame for assuming that she would turn it down. This has went on, and I played my part and I take responsibility. I should have nipped it in the bud when I realized it was becoming a problem. I'm human, and my judgment is sometimes off the mark.