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Old 03-06-2013, 05:59 AM
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Originally Posted by lemondrops View Post
. . . B would just start making the cake out of fear that otherwise someone else would do it and A would just leave.

. . . C would feel pressured into going, because hey, otherwise A will just leave . . .
BUT what's wrong with someone leaving if that is what they want to do?

Another option is to invite C and D over to have cake with A and B. And C goes cycling alone and comes back. So many more options.
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