I am new to the forum but have had several years as poly. Started out as a swing couple, currently single, M (41), in two secondary relationships. The first is a lesbian and bi F couple, the second is a married MF couple. Both are eager to embrace the poly concept which I introduced to both couples. Being in a secondary position is a new area for me, after a year and a half I still have a strong desire to find a primary partner whether that be a poly situation or mono relationship. I would welcome any advice or someone sharing their experience on how they worked their way through this stage. Of course it would be great to find like minded people in my area for friendship. I am a member of the two local meetup.com groups.