I don't know what's going on with their end of it. But he didn't have YOUR goodwill/consent/enthusiasm.
I know some people like the chase/to be chase. I prefer a stronger line --
- Yes = yes
- maybe = no
- no = no
Then it's clear cut and aboveboard. On the "maybe = no" I think it's better to err on the side of caution. Polymath can get pretty big depending on the number of players.
So they are dating now. Could be good if he spent some time with you now to smooth things over. She could spend some time with you. THEY could spend some time with you.
It could have been better before
so your trust in his judgement would not have taken a ding. But have to move things forward so... could do it NOW then.