Hello and welcome to the Forums!
Your situation is not an unusual one around here, hopefully you find the advice and support helpful.
If you would like to ask a question you can always post in our Relationship Corner subforum. Or if you would like a place to blog about your experiences you could start one in the Lifestories and Blogs section (this is more for people to get things off their chest - discussion/debate is minimal there).
Me: poly bi female, in an "open-but-not-looking" Vee-plus with -
MrS: hetero polyflexible male, live-in husband (22+ yrs)
Dude: hetero poly male, live-in boyfriend (3+ yrs) and MrS's best friend
Lotus: poly bi female, "it's complicated" relationships with Dude/JaneQ/MrS (1+ years)
TT: poly male, married to Lotus, FB with JaneQ
VV and MsJ: bi-women with male primaries, LTR LDR FWBs to JaneQ
My poly blogs here:
The Journey of JaneQSmythe
The Notebook of JaneQSmythe