Originally Posted by triolove
We all want to be even.
I don't know how that is compatible with you saying 'I am the wife' and earlier saying 'I had him first' then?
It is true that there is not one
relationship but three and you all
have to respect the validity of each of those relationships. So, did you actually sit down and discuss this before you jumped into this situation? It is very hard to start once emotions start to get engaged and now she may be entrenched into the idea of everything needing to be done together, which is simply not sustainable.