I think the thing that maybe SHE is missing about this whole set-up is the "polymath" aspect.
Just because you are in a trio/triad DOESN'T mean that the A+B+C relationship is the ONLY one that gets tended to. There are a myriad of OTHER relationships involved that all need their own time and tending:
- to start off with.
EACH of those relationships also needs it's own time to grow and flourish. Then, each of those relationships (the 3 dyads that make up the triad) has it's own relationship with the third person:
(A+B) as they relate to C
(B+C) as they relate to A
(A+C) as they relate to B
These are the underlying relationships that SUPPORT the very POSSIBILITY of a healthy A+B+C relationship.
Me: poly bi female, in an "open-but-not-looking" V-plus with -
MrS: hetero polyflexible male, live-in husband (24+ yrs)
Dude: hetero poly male, live-in boyfriend (5+ yrs) and MrS's BFF
SLeW: platonic girlfriend and BFF
Lotus: "it's complicated"
+ "others" = FBs, FWBs, lover-friends, platonic G/BFs, boytoys, etc.
My poly blogs here:
The Journey of JaneQSmythe
The Notebook of JaneQSmythe