some people love labels, some really dont like them, me, I use them when it suits my needs and or purposes
does my definition fit everyone elses? most definitely not, which is why i've been told i explain things to death, cause i try to leave no gray area, i use labels and i explain what i mean, then we can argue my use of the wrong label if you want
for me personally i go with a "to each their own" kinda vibe, i'm not interested in judging others on their usage of labels or for wanting whatever that label implies, but if we're going to be kinky together, then yes its very important we both know exactly what each other is saying regardless of the labels we use
so, you do your thing, i'll do mine, and maybe if we strike each others fancies we can do some things together!