First things first - thanks for sharing this story - I think it may be more typical than we'd like to think.
Originally Posted by rolypoly
This seems so dishonest to me and not poly at all! I feel uncomfortable about it.
I guess it matters less to me whether or not it's "poly" and more whether you are ok with it or not.
I've pretty much decided I'm steering clear of the whole messy situation and intend to be just friends when he comes back. But, I thought maybe one of you wise poly's might have some good poly advice for me.
For what it's worth, I would probably do the very same thing - I don't want to be anybody's "dirty little secret". Others can, and do live happily with that sort of arrangement. It all comes down to what yo
u want, and what makes you
comfortable and fulfilled in your relationships.