Originally Posted by opalescent
One of the truisms people here will tell folks is that if your relationship is broken, adding more people will not fix it. It can make things much worse. That said, some people do come to poly and/or open relationships through cheating. It is a very tough road but some do manage that transition. And some folks do the work to make their initial relationships stronger as they open up. But the broken relationship, add more model does seem fairly prevalent. I often wonder why.
You should always fix what's broken before attempting a quick fix.
(I'm an outdoor survivalist so bear with my metaphors.)
It's like a canoe that gets a crack. Do you throw a patch over it and work for days to smooth and sand, carefully making sure the seam is planed and patched countless times to ensure a positive fix? Or do you just add duct tape?
It's just me, my ramblings and the elevator music in my head.
Me: bi, reformed wild-child turned mom and house maid LOL
Crux: straight/hypersexual, possibly mono?
BC: our son, 5 years
CM: second son 9 months.
Mouse: girlfriend! Status new, feelings not so much.