Thread: Grokking Poly
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Old 02-27-2013, 04:29 AM
JaneQSmythe JaneQSmythe is offline
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Hello and welcome! (Sorry I missed your intro post - I've been traveling and just now catching up...I saw your wife mention your username and said to myself "Aha, another Heinlein fan in our midst!" Had to look you up.)

Originally Posted by vmsmith View Post
Sometimes I don't really have a question and just want to share an update on my journey. If I understand correctly, that's probably what this section of the forum is for. I just start a thread now and then reply with updates over time. Sound about right? Good, here we go.
Yup, you got it exactly right! You can invite discussion/feedback if you like, but generally this section is more for your personal use...journaling your journey, so to speak.

Originally Posted by vmsmith View Post
The day after I had committed to meeting with this other woman (what do I call her at this point?)
I'd go with "potential interest"?

Originally Posted by vmsmith View Post
... my wife experienced some jealousy, possibly triggered by some miscommunications around scheduling... but we were able to talk it out and all is well now. I can't believe how much this process of opening up has improved our communication skills. I feel like I'm much more direct and less filtered, though I still try to be as tactful and sensitive as I can be.
Secondary benefits of poly...even if nothing else ever goes have to (must!) communicate effectively with your partner(s) - tactful? yes. sensitive? yes. but also truthful, honest, open...not all truths are easy to say/hear...but it is better to say them than not. You grok?

Me: poly bi female, in an "open-but-not-looking" V-plus with -
MrS: hetero polyflexible male, live-in husband (23+ yrs)
Dude: hetero poly male, live-in boyfriend (4+ yrs) and MrS's BFF
Lotus: "it's complicated"
SLeW: platonic girlfriend + BFF
+ "others" = FBs, FWBs, lover-friends, platonic G/BFs, boytoys, etc.

My poly blogs here:
The Journey of JaneQSmythe
The Notebook of JaneQSmythe

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