Originally Posted by Malfunktions
So in closing, what's the difference, or *is there * a difference between "being poly" and " using poly"?
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Not criticism, just another confused thought thrown on the pile...
After reading a lot here, I might guess that "being poly" means it is a natural, full-time desire to have multiple relationships most of the time. It is that person's natural state, necessary to meeting their needs.
"Using poly" might be people who can function happily for much longer periods of time with only one intimate relationship, as long as their needs are being met. When their needs are no longer being met, they will look for other ways to do that, with other people. Not cheating, since in theory they are open about it, but not always a part of their lives, maybe more situationally?
These are both just guesses. I may be 100% wrong about all of it.