Sounds like you are thinking along your process then. That's good.
I wanted to lift this up.
He's in a really great place emotionally right now, a new job that has him excited, and our marriage feels like a growing, breathing entity, which it hand't before the woman came along
- What part did he have in that situation making -- where a marriage he is a part of is going untended.
- what part did you have in that situation making -- where a marriage you are a part of is going untended?
- Both present and accountable in the marriage? Or drifting in care and attention?
- What could need attention there now before considering new things?