What he said........
+1 for dirtclustit
You are doing well, try not to get too worked up. Best advice going forward, try to look at all of this as honestly as possible. Understand what you want, what you need, and what you require before discussing these things with your wife. Trust yourself, trust your wife, and deal with issues thoughtfully. It is ok to feel hurt, jealous, or whatever, the most important thing now is how you deal with those feelings.
Sparkle has some good suggestions above, I would advise you at least consider some of them. Do not crawl into a hole, or try to ignore the situation, it will just get worse.
Best of luck,
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