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Old 02-24-2013, 05:26 PM
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I truly can't imagine. That secrecy was what killed me in having an affair. The lying that makes secrecy possible is what drove me to poly.

I am the hinge in a V. My husband didnt want poly but has become much more accepting over the last three years.
I absolutely can't imagine lying to my children. Not ever. Nor would I ask them to lie for me. Lying is such a painful insidious thing. It gets inside and tears a person up.
I wonder, after two years why the three of you can't renegotiate at least in reference to your children and a few close friends.

I have heard many an explanation for the "need" of secrecy. But, to be honest, I respect myself, my boyfriend, my husband and my kids way too much to play that game. Its too destructive.
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