I am new on here as well but I can tell you that from my own experience if you can simply accept yourself for what you are the confusion will disappear very quickly. It is not insane to love more than one person any more than getting married blinds you to the existence of other people. human contact is necessary for a balanced mind and love for a healthy relationship. that you and your husband communicate is the right way to start, that he is accepting, even supportive is better. I don't know if this helps you any but i was once just as confused but just knowing I wasn't the only one helped me alot.