Why would you break the bond with Mono if he found another gf? miss pixi and I are bonded, this doesn't change no matter whom I date or whom she dates. We've been together 4 years. Men have come and gone from my life in those years. She's stayed consistent. It wouldve served no purpose to break or even lessen my bond.
Ginger has been with me a year now, it's the real deal, love, and still miss pixi and I are deeply bonded.
Unless you mean you are co dependent with Mono and it is unhealthy, the bond or dependence. In that case, change things now. You don't need to wait til if and when he finds another serious gf.
Love withers under constraint; its very essence is liberty. It is compatible neither with envy, jealousy or fear. It is there most pure, perfect and unlimited when its votaries live in confidence, equality and unreserve. -- Shelley
There's no lying in polyamory!
I'm a 58 year old woman with 2 partners:
miss pixi, my live-in gf, 36 (together since Jan '09)
Ginger, bf, 61, married, lives nearby (together since Jan '12)