I'm glad he finally calmed down and you had a good talk, he apologized and you both got some clarity.
I was starting to think he was being a dom-ass. Some so called Doms think they can just do and say anything to their subs, order them around, with her having no say-- but that is just abuse.
Things are complicated... he's jobless, and you're separating from your husband? These extra pressures make practicing polyAMORY difficult. If y'all can make do with just playing around with others for now, maybe the amory part will be easier once the other pressures have lessened.
Love withers under constraint; its very essence is liberty. It is compatible neither with envy, jealousy or fear. It is there most pure, perfect and unlimited when its votaries live in confidence, equality and unreserve. -- Shelley
me: Mags, 59, living with:
miss pixi, 37