Welcome to our forum.
It's true that the early stages of a poly relationship can be rough. I remember my early years (2006-2008); sometimes things got really bad. But you stay with it because it's worth it, and because you have faith in it. Things got much easier for me; they will for you too.
Even though I have to "share time" with the hinge person (I am also in a Vee), I have learned to value my "me" time, so that has helped. The three of us do live together nowadays, but I have my own separate bedroom/bathroom. It helps, as I am sometimes a privacy freak.
Anyway, I am glad you could join us, and hope we can answer any questions you may have.
Love means never having to say, "Put down that meat cleaver!"