Thatgirlingrey, you've made some spot on points and everything is open to perceptions.
About the sharking thing- yes that it. We're 27 and 30 and do not troll the dance clubs looking for early 20's experiments.
We should be judged on who we are not on label misconceptions. We are completely aware of the IF factor being as our quiet little corner in Canada has probably never even heard of Polyamory before. They are still under the preconceived notions that anything more than M/F is cheating on the other/whoring around/or some uber strange sexual sadist fantasy. Yay for the Bible Belt.