Hi and welcome,
Why is it obvious that you cant tell your husband that right this minute you dont want his touch and that you want the BF touch ??? Maybe he feels the same way and wont be particularity hurt or upset ...AND it's the truth.
Honesty is a critical component in poly relationships no matter how painful some things are to hear.
Wouldn't you want to know if he was forcing himself to be intimate with you?? Doing mind tricks to be able to perform....
Last edited by dingedheart; 02-21-2013 at 05:47 PM.