lion had a girlfriend once who wound up being mentally unstable. she made our lives difficult for quite a while. we now have an "anti-julie" veto rule. if either one of us feels threatened in the same way by our partner's dates, we can say no. it has only been implemented once each, but it is there and we are grateful for it. we give the freedom of each other's other relationships, but we can get us all out by using it if needed. communicating your wants and needs with EVERYONE involved is paramount to a successful relationship, poly or otherwise.
crab-lion: 42 y/o bi woman domestic partner w/lion
lion: 39 male hetero domestic partner w/crab-lion
twin: bi woman lion's girlfriend/almost lover
d: hetero woman lion's long distance girlfriend