No. Its as simple as, every person needs to clearly communicate their needs and wants from day one and repeating as they change. Bare minimum.
Morethantwo.com has a lot of good info. Galagirl (on here) posts some great links to info as well.
My blog aafteota.wordpress.com has a links page. The blog is currently set to private due to some stalker issues-but if you go to it and request to see it, it will send me the request for approval and give u a password to see it. It chronicles our life from a dyad to a V with children. Also has loads of information I have collected including websites and books.
"Love As Thou Wilt"