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Old 02-21-2013, 03:27 AM
GalaGirl GalaGirl is offline
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I made it explicitly clear that my involvement with them was optional, not mandatory though she says that she wants me involved. Any suggestions?
Could be more clear. "Involved" HOW exactly?

As another dating partner/lover? As a friend/person to talk to? WHAT?

And WHEN? All the time? Before dates, after dates, only on second tuesdays?

You could not seek to micromanage, but could strive to be clearer about your intentions and where your boundaries are. If she's asking the shared BF, it could mean she doesn't yet know. Be best if she came to you direct, but if that's part of the things to sort... could talk and sort them out then.

Could not have people guess how you want to be treated.
Could teach them how you want to be treated.

Galagirl
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