I just read through your whole blog, and I wish I had seen it before--so much of it resonated with me.
I can understand your feelings about your ex's possible love.
But at least she wants to talk to you and tell you about it, right? You'll always be important to her life and she knows you care about her.
I'm more familiar with the kind of ex who believes that once the relationship is over, you don't exist anymore.
Hope other things are going well in your life.