Thank you GG for posting the link to some helpful information. I've been reading lots, and we had a very encouraging couples counseling session. Overall I still feel good about our level of communication. We are going to take it real slow, because it's scary, but in a good way
On Thursday the three of us are having lunch and my lover is going to pick up our friend, and she wants to spend some time with her ahead of time to find out if the attraction is mutual and if our friend would be interested in more. I'm actually excited for her and hope it goes well. That's certainly not an emotion I expected to find!