first post: relationship going through changes (long read)
Hello everyone, I have been lurking and wanted to introduce myself. I am a married man and our relationship has been recently going through some exciting changes. Me and my wife have had a closed traditional marriage until recently, we don't swing but have enjoyed a little exhibitionism and voyeurism over the years. We have a friend who I have been friends with since we were kids, I will call her Kate.
Kate and I had been intimate several times before I got married but have always just been friends. Recently Kate has been spending more time with us and it has become obvious that Kate and my wife are attracted to one another. This was surprising to me as my wife has always identified as straight and has told me she isn't attracted to women. When I had brought up bringing other women into the bedroom in the past she has stated that she just isn't into girls and didn't want to share me so there would be no fit.
Apparently she isn't quite as hetero as she thought she was. The last couple of times that Kate has come over my wife has been spending more effort making the house look really nice and also on her appearance. Its like she is preparing for a big date rather than getting ready for dinner with friends.
The last two visits have ended up with all three of us in the bedroom, the last visit was especially amazing. I have kept my wife in the center of things to keep jealousy at bay and to help Kate not feel like she is stepping on anyone's toes. My wife has really been enjoying having four hands at her disposal. We have been having the best sex we have had in years even after Kate has gone home. We have discussed dating Kate and both agree it is something we would like to explore. We aren't ready to discuss this with Kate yet as we don't know if she feels more casual about this situation than we do and don't want to scare her off. We are letting things blossom on their own for now. My biggest concern for now is helping to make sure everyone is comfortable and trying to slowly open up lines of communication.
Anyway, I never thought I would be a part of this particular subculture but it kind of just fell in*our laps. I want to see how others have functioned in these situations as this is new for me and I want to avoid potential pitfalls if possible.
Thanks for reading.
Last edited by ground; 02-19-2013 at 08:51 PM.
Reason: corrected grammar