Victoria, thank you for your concern, but I'm not seeking validation, the one true answer, or to change anyone's mind. I was seeking only perspective and opinions and I received them, and they are various. I am quite capable of making my own decisions based on my own values and beliefs. I provided more information only because I thought it would help people better understand the context. In my experience unless I know someone or the situation very well I tend to reserve personal judgement. I believe in general rules not absolute ones and every situation is unique. I appreciate all of the perspectives and opinions provided here, but will give more weight to those delivered with compassion and respect.
38 M, Straight, Minneapolis. “Love is that condition in which the happiness of another person is essential to your own.” -Robert A. Heinlein, Stranger in a Strange Land