So you are on different pages for what model of open relationship you are each seeking.
And you would like some behaviors from him before/after his Other dates to reconnect and catch back up that he is not currently demonstrating.
And you have not yet determined if the pain of having him in your life is better or not than the pain of not having him in your life as a romantic partner.
Is there anything else?
I think that last one is the one you could answer first. Some choices in life are not win/lose but "this stinks, thanks stinks, which stinks least. Maybe being his friend only rather than dating partner is healthier for you?