and yes...for future clarification...we are in a vee, with the lion and the crab in the primary in the same household and the twin is the secondary in a separate apartment in the same town. it feels more like an even split, which is NOT what i was planning for in the first place, not a pri/sec. relationship. but he and i do a lot of ASS-U-ME-ing and are working on that.
crab-lion: 42 y/o bi woman domestic partner w/lion
lion: 39 male hetero domestic partner w/crab-lion
twin: bi woman lion's girlfriend/almost lover
d: hetero woman lion's long distance girlfriend