this whole poly thing is new to many people, even those who have lived the life for years, because we are trend setter and rule breakers. each relationship is different and it's whatever works for the three of you. it will take a great amount of communication, honest communication. if one or both of the boys aren't willing to do that, it's not going to work.
crab-lion: 42 y/o bi woman domestic partner w/lion
lion: 39 male hetero domestic partner w/crab-lion
twin: bi woman lion's girlfriend/almost lover
d: hetero woman lion's long distance girlfriend