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Old 02-16-2013, 04:23 PM
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Originally Posted by vmsmith View Post
but honesty is an incredible thing... we connected on a whole new level and are closer now than ever.
First off, good for you. That could have been a bloodbath but it sounds like everyone is coming out a winner.

Originally Posted by vmsmith View Post
Am I being too much of an idealist? Is it worth wrecking the friendship for the risk of mucking up an already troubled marriage?
There comes a point when you need to decide how much responsibility you are will to take for other peoples decisions. How would you personally feel if your continued friendship with her somehow ended her marriage? Could you live with that? Would you be a tortured wreck because of it? If you think of it this way you are making the decision for yourself, not for her. I'm of the opinion that choices made with our own self preservation in mind are always more honest.
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