Thread: Poly or not?
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Old 06-11-2009, 01:44 PM
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It seems to me that there's a fine line between privacy and honesty, in this situation. I mean, I can't monitor every conversation they have, but I'm still interested. And I understand that some of the specific things they say to each other are not really my business. She is sorry for betraying me, and she is trying to help make this work, but she's still hesitant to really involve me. Part of her nervousness is related to my reaction when I first found out- I was not angry, just hurt, disappointed. I think she could have dealt with anger more easily. And you may be right about "having her cake and eating it too". I think she prefers to have this emotional affair out of my sight, and to keep most of the details of our marriage out of "his" sight. Two separate loves- rather than two "shared" loves.
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