Originally Posted by nycindie
I want to express myself physically with people I am romantically involved with.
This resonates so much with me. I think that for me, a relationship isn't romantic unless there is a sexual element to it. Being able to get sex outside of the relationship just doesn't do it for me - I want to be experiencing that with romantic partners.
I'm totally fine with people not wanting to be sexual with me. I have several important, emotionally intimate, worthwhile relationships that are not and will never be sexual. I just wouldn't call those people partners. They are friends or family.
I wonder often if there is just such a focus on romance that sometimes it just doesn't feel okay not to have it in our lives?
My SO sent this around a group of our friends yesterday and I think there is a lot in it that is interesting.